Online Wheelchair Dating Tips

“ONLINE WHEELCHAIR DATING TIPS”

New YouTube episode out now – My dating life in a wheelchair as a C6 quadriplegic

Talking to you today about disability dating. Specifically, online dating tips I’ve used as a woman in a wheelchair and a C6 quadriplegic. Dating is challenging no matter who you are, but online dating is even more daunting – now online dating with a disability presents its own unique set of challenges! Several years ago before I got married I went on a giant dating experiment. I was facing a major surgery for a pressure sore I had and I had about five months to go before my 11th surgery.

I decided, quite truthfully, to just try and sleep with as many men as I could to explore my disability and sexuality. I probably should not be writing about this online or making a video, but this is my reality.

It took me 5 years to gain the courage to even start dating after my accident when I broke my neck in a shallow water diving accident in 2010 leaving me paralyzed from the chest down with limited hand mobility. Throughout my dating adventures I ran into all kinds of strange people, great people, and some guys who simply were curious about what it was like to sleep and/or date a woman in a wheelchair.

I have a very quirky sense of humor, so I created an Excel spreadsheet to monitor my success for online dating. I have been through it all. Hopefully some of what I have been through you will not experience, but I was on an experiment in the name of research! specifically, disability dating research! Even through my failures and successes I learned so much. Let me take you on a journey of some of my dating mishaps and wonderful successes!

Navigating Caregivers and Relationships Podcast

It was pretty awesome to be a guest last week Hosted by BACKBONES and sponsored by the REEVE FOUNDATION with a good friend Chelsea McDonald. We really dove into some super personal disability topics that are just not normalized in mainstream society!

It was an honest, raw, and invigorating conversation on how we handle caregiving, sex, challenges, and triumphs with our husbands. A relationship with the added component of a disability is not necessarily harder than any other relationship, but there are certainly added considerations that have to be factored in to our everyday lives, especially because we are both quadriplegics and rely on people to help us with our caregiving activities each day!

I keep noticing these topics are slowly creeping up around the country and I am so pleased to have been part of this one;

Caregiving & Sexuality

Very cool podcast I was part of that offers a very unique perspective on how many of us with disabilities approach the conversations with our caregivers when we want to be intimate with a new person in our life, and how we handle those conversations.

Probably not something you think much about, but it’s an important topic that constantly gets pushed aside and is left unrecognized!

I personally have had a lot of really interesting experiences and conversations when I was engaged in the dating part of my life prior to getting married. Some wild conversations for sure 😉

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YouTube Channel Live – “Shower Talk with Ali”

YOUTUBE CHANNEL LINK: https://www.youtube.com/c/QuirkyQuad_Ali

This has been a project near and dear to my heart that I have been working on for the better part of a year, but projects have just been popping up left and there never really seemed to be a right time to take the leap. So, I decided weeks ago to just dive right in as they say (figuratively of course because I already took the physical dive 12 years ago;) – and, I certainly don’t have any desire to do that again!

I am incredibly humbled, honored, and proud to announce the launch of my new YouTube channel called

“Shower Talk with Ali – Where No Topic is Limit”

To complement my website and my writing I appreciate many people love to watch videos. In light of this, I’ve created this YouTube channel with the sole focus of approaching and normalizing uncomfortable topics in my life and the disability world so that folks from all walks of life can understand what many of us go through on a daily basis. This is not a channel just about inspiration, but really diving into understanding some of what many of us with disabilities live through each and every moment of our lives.

In the spirit of who I am I have approach many topics through the lens of dark humor, determination, and sheer grit at times. No matter what situation I may me dealing with in life I always seem to find the comedy behind every experience my life.

I do hope you enjoy, follow my channel, like, subscribe, and comment so that I might be able to make videos on what you are all interested in! This channel is by no means just for people with disabilities, but for EVERYONE may just be curious and loves to learn about topics that are very unfamiliar in your own life.

Introduction to My YouTube Channel:

PODCAST with Kevin Lowe

I was the guest on a super cool podcast with the most amazing gentleman named Kevin Lowe.

Kevin has an incredible story in his own right and he certainly makes the most of life with his incredibly quirky, and hilarious sense of humor.

Kevin too, shares a disability with me, but his is in the realm of sight. He is blind and has navigated his life so eloquently, with grace, and a ton of humor.

We had such a fabulous time during this podcast that I felt like I was chatting with an old friend who I had known for years!I would love for you to check out his podcast and start listening to him!

Rebel Love Podcast Now Live

Love, Sex & Orgasms …Yup, I went there live on Rebel Love Podcast!It was a blast speak with Talia on so many subjects and shedding light on disability and sexuality.

Naturally this is a topic near and dear to my heart since my website has a tagline on this very topic!I don’t know if many of you know this, but my entire advocacy mission in life started 6 years ago because of a dating experiment I would write about on my Facebook page.

This is actually how the QUIRKY QUAD Diaries was founded… Simply trying to show women with disabilities that a love life is absolutely possible even in a wheelchair 🙂

Also, to be completely honest it was super fun to write about sex at a time when I was dealing with major life changing surgeries!

EP39: Life As A Quadriplegic After A Shallow Water Diving Accident: Ali’s Story

Flowing East and West: The Perfectly Imperfect Journey to a Fulfilled Life all Podcast

I’m super honored to have been a guest on this incredible Podcast with two amazing ladies!

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/flowing-east-and-west-the-perfectly-imperfect-journey/id1546631522

Here’s the intro of what the podcast is all about – FEET FIRST:

“Ali Ingersoll had a somewhat charmed upbringing, attending boarding school abroad, going on amazing adventures and taking advantage of every opportunity that showed up.  Then a life-changing accident happened when Ali took a head-first dive into shallow water.  Feet First not only describes Ali’s plea for anyone jumping into shallow water, but also how she has lived her life, both before and after the accident.  While she is now restricted to a wheelchair, Ali continues to live life to the fullest  – wait until you hear her dating stories (sorry, guys, she is now happily married!) – we were both laughing hysterically.  This in no way means Ali hasn’t had ups and downs – indeed, she speaks very candidly about her challenges and dark days. However, in her toughest moments, she has developed an incredible resilience and a “radical acceptance” that we cannot help being inspired by.

Ali reminded us of this quote which we think perfectly sums up how she lives her life:

Disasters lead to the best stories – Ali Ingersoll

Ali Ingersoll is a day trader, consultant, disability advocate, writer, blogger, editor, and public speaker. She started her advocacy mission after being repeatedly denied medically necessary equipment by insurance companies over the last 10 years since becoming a C6 quadriplegic and full-time wheelchair user after a shallow water diving accident.”

Ali’s passion lies in coaching people with disabilities on how to improve their quality of life by teaching them to self-advocate in order to live a life of independence, dignity, and grace.

Ali has a firm philosophy of paying it forward by giving back to the community through outreach, working together, and building each other up. She believes it’s important to band together as one in order to affect the greatest change on the national stage and in local communities.”

ICU Survival Guide with a Twist!

There’s an art and a science to pretty much everything in life and surviving for weeks on end in the ICU is no different.  With a majority of medical professionals being woefully under trained in all of the secondary complications accompanying spinal cord injury, the thought of trying to stay alive while you’re in the hospital can be a daunting prospect -especially when you have to play your own investigator in assisting these professionals with your diagnoses.

However, while there’s definitely a certain amount of research, planning, and preparation that needs to be thought out by the patient when you are essentially locked into the hospital by your medical professionals; you can have a little fun with it as well.  Living on the edge of life and death, as many folks with spinal cord injury will very likely attest to, I find taking a dark humor outlook on most situations to be healing for my body, and my soul.

Despite my long ICU stay in 2016, I maintained a cheery disposition, but this time I decided to do something a little bit wackier to pass the time.  What pray tell did I do you may ask?

Why an ICU sexy photo shoot of course!

Check it out on Push Living Magazine:

The Three C’s of My First Year of Marriage

I am so honored to be featured once again in New Mobility Magazine to talk about my marriage, the challenges we face, and how we work through them. Marriage is challenging enough, but when you add in the layered complexity of disability into a relationship I find that you have to work even harder on communication and making things work.

Check out the article below and I hope you enjoy 🙂